Dealing With Negativity Within

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No matter how positive a person you may be, or working to be, we all have phases that get the best of us; phases where we don’t feel our best in, overthink, complain, let things spiral off control, have one bad day after the other, get overwhelmed, get lazy, or just let negativity hover in our heads. We are all humans after all, and cannot be in our best forms all the time. However, it is important that we deal with negative emotions and phases when we realize it, instead of just letting it pass, hoping it will disappear someday. If we aren’t careful enough, it can soon get the best of us, silently. So, how do you deal with negativity that arises from within, that brings unpleasant changes out? Simply put, what do you do when you don’t feel like yourself?

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Honest Unplanned-Leave Excuses To Tell Your Boss, Instead Of The Same Old Sick Leave

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I cannot come to work today because…

1. My maid didn’t come to work today, so I got to do my maid’s work. You have a back up employee to do my work, but I have no backup maid. I am the back up maid. And if my backup in office is on leave too, the work can wait I’m sure. Ain’t no utensils stinking there.

2. I cannot find my Tupperware that I pack my lunch in. I need to spend the day searching for it since it’s the only valuable property I have, and will be leaving it in my will for the kids.

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Don’t Wait For The End, To Begin Living

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I’ve been watching a lot of Ted Talks of late, on life, bucket lists and living with passion everyday. Almost every talk I came across, is focused on life, but more importantly life before death, or after near death. Several speakers had one thing in common. Most of them had almost died, and the news of their impending, or near-missed death, made them evaluate their life, the choices they made, the career they chose, the lives they lived. As with these speakers, and many others in the world, life begins with death – ironically much! So many stories out there, of the ones who escaped death, and decided to live a life true to themselves, without regrets. And it makes me wonder, should we really wait for a tragedy, a warning sign, a reminder from life that it is indeed temporary, to start living the life we really wish to live?

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What Are Your Distractions Trying To Tell You?

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I have a terrible habit of unlocking my mobile screen often. When I’m supposed to be doing something important at home, like making an important call or writing, this habit goes beyond unlocking, to scrolling through social media, deleting unnecessary files, changing the wallpaper, to everything I think is important, before going ahead with the actual task. From binge-watching Netflix, spending too much time on social media, deciding to organize the entire house right before a big deadline, stuffing in junk food, we all have ways to distract ourselves, sometimes, without even realizing, what we think is important, is actually a distraction.

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Getting Out Of A Rut

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Some days we’re ready to take on the world with our super hero capes flying behind us, as we swiftly move through different tasks of the day, all with a smile on our face and energy that could make even caffeine jealous, while other days we just want to cuddle with a blanket on the sofa amidst cookie crumbles, and go on about our days like we were put here on earth just to follow instructions half-heartedly. It’s OK to be on both sides of the spectrum, because just like life, we too cannot be perfect all the time. However, there are times when such days seem to last longer than we’d want, affecting our bodies, minds and lives in general. It happens to all of us. Going through life, most times doing the same thing over and over again, we all tend to fall into a rut every now and then.

I found myself in a rut for quite a few days recently, lacking energy and enthusiasm to do things. My regular work commitments aside, I was hardly doing anything that nourished my mind, body, and soul. I had a million ideas in my head, yet hardly any in action. I didn’t feel like the best version of myself, and despite how beautiful it was, life seemed to be an endless run in the hamster wheel. Thankfully, I buckled up and made efforts to get out of it, and here’s how you can do it too.

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10 Things I Learned From Self Help Books

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One great habit that I’ve picked up in recent years, is to read/listen to self-help books. I truly enjoy reading, and adding self-help books to my reading list, has contributed more to my life than I asked for. Bit by bit, they’ve kept me motivated, opened my mind to new horizons, and left me with snippets that I think of, and apply in real life, from time to time.

Here are ten things that I’ve learned from various self-help books I’ve read. Some of these I’ve implemented in my life, some I’m trying to, and some I can’t wait to implement soon.

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Imagine, A World Where…

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Imagine a world where, people would live life, instead of just making a living. Where their lives wouldn’t be limited to work and bills, weekends and chores. A world where we’d all remember to pause and breathe once a while, where we’d need no breaks from the ordinary, because we’d find extra ordinary in ordinary too. Where we wouldn’t have to plan living well in advance, and live each day, one day at a time.

Imagine a world where people would always love themselves. Nobody would put themselves down. A world where we’d all be so madly in love with ourselves, that we’d never let anyone put us down. A world where self love would come so naturally, that we’d need no reminders that we are amazing just the way we are.

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Motivation Killers, and Ways to Fix Them

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Lethargic, lazy  and unmotivated! Do these words ring a bell? They sure do to me! A serial procrastinator, I have two phases in general. One where I’m extremely motivated, ready to take on the world, helping myself through self help articles all over the internet, quickly reading up books , on my feet at work, and busy as a bee off work too, trying to check things off my list. The other is lying amidst cookie crumbles on the couch, binge watching tv shows, and making excuses to skip doing any kind of work, while I toggle between social media and an article listing 101 ways to kill time from the couch. While the former makes me feel alive and happy, the latter doesn’t do a great job at how I feel about myself or life, but is yet addictive.

It is only natural to lack behind our plans once a while. No mater what we believe, we aren’t superhumans after all. However, if this persists for a long period of time, creeping into the spaces of your life, effecting your work, personal life or your idea of success, it’s time to refllect on habits that make you lethargic, and keep you unmotivated.

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