Why do we get angry in a traffic jam?
There was a time when I’d literally end up in tears, the next stage after anger, when I’d get stuck in traffic. I’d try it all, swearing at other drivers ahead, cursing the bad roads, screaming my lungs out, even pulling out my hair, until I questioned myself one day “Where will frustration in a traffic jam take me? Ahead? Certainly not.” While several around me lose their cool, I am now surprised to find myself calm and cheerful, since I had long made peace with traffic, knowing I have two ways to deal with a situation I have no control over, lose my mind over it and let negative emotions take over, or stay calm and enjoy the alone time I get.
Traffic jams are unavoidable, especially in rainy seasons or busy hours. It is important to remember, that it is one of those situations where nobody can actually do anything, except for waiting for the traffic to clear. It’s like being stuck in a room for a limited time. You can either stay calm and take rest, or lose your head over opening the door that you know will open soon anyway. The physical pain that they bring along, is unavoidable too, and will probably test your patience, but a frustrated mind, will only make the pain worse.
Frustration and anger, makes the time stuck in traffic, much worse. The frustration that begins in a traffic jam, doesn’t end with it. It seeps through your day, or night, and sometimes onto people who are no way related to your struggle on the road. Don’t let bad traffic set out a chain reaction. The next time you’re stuck in a traffic jam, take a moment before you react. Remember, that getting angry or frustrated, will not take you anywhere ahead, it won’t clear up the road or add civic sense into the government that built the bad roads or bad drivers that made the traffic worse. When you do that, you end the misery in the traffic, and don’t carry it beyond. Listen to an audio book, play a game with yourself or your co passenger, look around and study people, dance in your car and cheer yourself up. When you get frustrated, remind yourself that anger won’t help clear up the traffic but will only make the experience worse.
All it takes is conscious awareness, that it’s something you cannot change, and is best dealt with peace. Happy driving!