Lethargic, lazy and unmotivated! Do these words ring a bell? They sure do to me! A serial procrastinator, I have two phases in general. One where I’m extremely motivated, ready to take on the world, helping myself through self help articles all over the internet, quickly reading up books , on my feet at work, and busy as a bee off work too, trying to check things off my list. The other is lying amidst cookie crumbles on the couch, binge watching tv shows, and making excuses to skip doing any kind of work, while I toggle between social media and an article listing 101 ways to kill time from the couch. While the former makes me feel alive and happy, the latter doesn’t do a great job at how I feel about myself or life, but is yet addictive.
It is only natural to lack behind our plans once a while. No mater what we believe, we aren’t superhumans after all. However, if this persists for a long period of time, creeping into the spaces of your life, effecting your work, personal life or your idea of success, it’s time to refllect on habits that make you lethargic, and keep you unmotivated.
Not being clear about what you want. We often put life on auto-pilot mode, getting ahead one day at a time. Some of us do know what we want to do, or where we want to go, but we aren’t sure about how to go ahead with it. Lack of clarity can be a major hinderance to being motivated to do things. A simple exercise of writing down your thoughts, or what is your agenda for life ahead – be it long term or one day at a time – will take you a long way in gaining some clarity, and push you to get off your ass and do somthing about it.
Subconscious beliefs. Were you once told that you’re not good enough at something? Are you surrounded by toxic relationships that make you think you can’t achieve much in life? Are you constantly told you’re lazy and have you started to believe it? Was there any previous incident that made you believe you are mediocre? Do you subconciously hold the fear of success, or money? (Yes! That is a thing and common amongst many.)
Subconscious beliefs play a major role in shaping our destinies and decisions. Spend some time with yourself and look within, to come to a conclusion about subconcious beliefs you are not even aware of, that have been pulling you down.
Your surroundings. Birds of a feather, flock together.It’s easier to stay unmotivated and lazy, when you have people with similar mindsets around you. Look around, to see the kind of friends you have, and people you are surrounded by. You’ll notice that your actions are often influenced by the environment you’re in. You don’t have to break friendships or move places to motivate yourself. However, you may find ways to spend time with people who can be of inspiration to you. Search for mentors, or if your’re too lazy to get off the couch, begin with following and reading about the journeys of such people online, or find suitable autobiographies to read.
Diet, Sleep and Exercise. It’s hard to stay focused, when you don’t eat right, don’t get enough sleep, or have been deprieving your body of exercise. Think of your mind as a car, that needs the right fuel to function. Unhealthy food and lack of sleep slows down your body and mind, thus making you lazier. Endorphins released by exercise, trigger a positive feeling in the body, making you more attentive and active. Physical well being, is directly linked with mental well being, and plays a major role in the decisions you take (or don’t take).
Excess screen time. Spending long hours on mobile, or the TV, robs your mental energy little at a time, until you longer have any left to even move off the couch or raise your head to face people in front of you. Limit the time you spend in front of any kind of screen, and be strict with yourself, about sticking to these deadlines. Ask a companion for help, if you think you can’t do it by yourself. You’ll be amazed at the time and energy you’ll be left with.
Staying unmotivated may be comfortable, but just like the comfort zone, it’ll start to prick after a while, long after its damages are done. All it takes is conscious willingness to make changes. You don’t have to start big. Small efforts, one after the other, will bring in positive changes worth the effort.